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For those of your followers wondering why two birth control methods are necessary here are some tiny facts on pregnancy while using birth control.

The Pill has a 99% effectivness when used correctly.

  • Of those women who use the pill exactly as directed, fewer than 1 in 100 will experience an accidental pregnancy during the first year of using this method.

91% effectiveness with typical use.

  • Of those women who do not use the pill exactly as directed, about 9 in 100 will experience an accidental pregnancy during the first year of using this method.

Also remember that certain antibiotics will cause the pill to STOP WORKING

MALE CONDOM is only 98% effective with perfect use

  • Of those women who use condoms exactly as directed, about 2 in 100 will experience an accidental pregnancy during the first year they use this method.

82% effective when used typical.

  • Of those women who do not use condoms exactly as directed, about 18 in 100 will experience an accidental pregnancy during the first year they use this method.


And if that isn’t enough to warrant two birth control methods what about the fact that condoms help in the prevention of std’s. And if you don’t believe that STD’s are something to be worried about here are some facts on that.

  • Estimated number of Americans living with an STD: 65 million
  • Number of new cases of STDs every year: 19 million
  • Number of Americans who will get an STD in their lifetime:  1 in 4
  • Number of unsafe sexual contacts it takes to get an STD:  1
  • Number of Americans who have genital herpes:  45 million
  • Percentage of Americans who have herpes and do not know it: 35
  • Seconds it takes for a new person gets genital herpes:  30
  • Number of people living with HIV/AIDS in America:  468,578
  • Percentage of those people who are African-American: 44
  • Number of people living with HIV who have not been diagnosed:  1 in 5
  • Maximum number of days it takes to detect HIV with a DNA by PCR test: 28
  • Estimated total number of cases of Chlamydia each year: 4,000,000
  • Percentage of women living with Chlamydia who do not know it: 75
  • Estimated cost of Chlamydia complications in the U.S. each year: $2,000,000,000
  • Average cost of antibiotic to treat a case of Chlamydia: $15
  • Percentage of people who have gonorrhea in the throat and do not know it:  90
  • Percentage of people who have syphilis, do not know it, and develop complications years later: 33
  • Estimated increased risk of acquiring HIV if infected with syphilis: 5 times
  • Percentage of IV drug users who are infected with Hepatitis B: 30
  • Percentage of IV drug users who are infected with Hepatitis C: 85
  • Percentage of straight men and women who have had sex with more than 5 people in the last 6 months who have Hepatitis B: 21
  • Number of people out of 100 infected with Hepatitis C who will develop chronic infection:  80
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If we told you that there was a way to make a woman putty in your hands, would you listen? Guess what, guys: We’ve figured out exactly what it takes to satisfy a woman — in the bedroom at least. You might think that a few kisses and the presentation of your proud erect member might be enough to make her quiver, but you might be missing the most important factor in your, and your woman’s, sexual satisfaction.

Women have so many erogenous zones that it can get a little overwhelming for a guy trying to figure out the magic combination to her satisfaction. You’ve already gotten a play-by-play overview of the most popular — her G-spot — so now it’s time to fully consider the never-fail, go-to spot for her orgasm. It’s time to focus on the most important square inch on her body: her clitoris. Understanding the clitoris is the key to a woman eager to come back for more. Get comfortable and pay attention, here’s everything you need to know when it comes to understanding the clitoris.

about the clitoris

Just in case you need a refresher course, here are the basic facts: Her clitoris is a small bud-like formation that is located slightly above the opening to her vagina, at the top of her inner labia. Clitoris size and shape differs from woman to woman, but it is generally between 1/8 to 3/8 of an inch in size. Her clitoris is the equivalent of your penis; it’s packed with nerve endings and becomes engorged when she’s aroused.

Vital info: The vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm — penetration just isn’t always enough on its own. Sounds like a good enough reason to makes its acquaintance, doesn’t it?

how to play with it


Sexual stimulation is largely a cerebral activity for women; turning her onrequires attention to her brain, not just her body. Even if you and your woman have yet to venture into talking dirty to each other, rest assured that whispering in her ear about what you plan on doing to her, or how turned on you are, can be enough to get her wanting more. The more aroused you can get her before the clothes come off, the easier your next job will be and this is key to understanding the clitoris.


It goes without saying that clean hands and neat fingernails are key if you plan on going exploring, but what you might not realize is that diving in and honing in on her clitoris to start with might not be your best plan of attack. Your fingers are nimble: use them to your advantage. Stroke her thighs on your way and caress the areas on either side of her clitoris, including her labia, before gently making the first contact. A lot of women may find direct pressure uncomfortable, so try aiming just below or just above her clitoris and making small circular movements. Because the clitoris actually extends well into her entire pelvic region, rest assured that her enjoyment will only be enhanced by full manual coverage.
Just a note on pressure: Be sure not to get too rough with her sensitive areas before you get to know what she likes and are clear on your understanding of the clitoris. A light touch will be more successful on most women, and those who need a little more are probably going to get frustrated with your restraint and beg for a harder touch. Sounds like a win-win situation to us.


We’re sure you’ve all heard about how your girl’s vibrator can be your best friend. Her battery-powered playthings can definitely help you be in more places at once, which is always a good thing. However, have you thought about ways to ensure clitoral stimulation during intercourse? Lining up your pubic bone to hit her in the right spot can be difficult to figure out and having her “help out” while you penetrate means that she has less hands available to be all over you, so why not try the newest vibrating product to help you both out? Many companies now offer stretchy rings that you can slide onto your member that come with the added bonus of a small knobby protrusion with vibrating capabilities that can ensure an extra boost for her with every thrust.


The focus of a lot of creams and sexual potions usually centers on the tingling effect or the numbing effect, depending on what you’re looking for. While it’s true that lubrication is key to making her experience pleasure rather than discomfort when you tackle her clitoris, it’s best not to get too caught up in the newest, most flavorful or scientifically superior bottle on the shelf. A plain old personal lubricant on its own can be your best friend when it comes to ensuring an optimal experience for your partner. Don’t believe us? Try masturbating with no slippery aid. Enough said.


All women appreciate that you’ve decided to get up close and personal — really, they do — and your mouth (and tongue) are your best aids tohelping her achieve an earth-shattering orgasm every time. The built-in lubrication and warmth are obvious pros in favor of oral sex, as is your ability to mix up the sensations with your lips and tongue teamwork. If you’re looking to move past the basic flick and swirl and show that you really understand the clitoris, try creating a bit of suction by taking her clitoris into your mouth with some gentle sucking or pulling away when she’s close to orgasm, and gently blowing on it to heighten her sensation and prolong the encounter.


We don’t want to ignore your favorite sex toy when we’re discussing her orgasm and understanding the clitoris; your penis can get in the game and help out during foreplay to really get her going as well. During intercourse, your member might not get too much face time with her clitoris, so it’s worth taking a bit of time to introduce them — they’re sure to be fast friends. Before sex, why not try having your woman lay on her back with her legs clamped together tightly (on her stomach works too) and slide your member between her legs right where they meet with her pelvis. Moving back and forth in this position lets your penis rub between her labia and, more importantly, directly over her clitoris. Not only does this trick feel great for both of you, it’s sure to heighten your collective arousal and result in possible orgasms for everyone.

no longer so elusive…

Understanding the clitoris is the sign of a man that is invested in his partner and her pleasure, both of which are noble qualities. Even though it seems like a bit of a mystery, there’s nothing to be afraid of, and many things to gain, namely a happy and satisfied woman. And remember, a satisfied woman is going to be more interested in making sure that you’re satisfied too, and you can’t ask for more than that.



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One of the greatest sexual and emotional obstacles for men today is performance anxiety. Those who battle it on a regular basis know how crippling and debilitating worrying about it can be. The problem is in the term itself: “performance anxiety.”

We have socialized ourselves to think of sex as an act, a performance, with an expected role we are supposed to conform to. Maybe our anxiety around sex comes from the expectations imposed on masculinity in our culture, from watching porn, from our depictions of how men act in the media, from fears or insecurities that fuel this need to perform. It could be because of our desire for partner or peer validation that we think we need to excel in something that every man is supposed to be a stud at doing.

How many times have you thought about your sexual performance? How long you lasted, how good or bad you were in bed, what your partner thought of the sex, a past sexual experience that didn’t go as planned? For many guys, these questions fill our minds and often stay with us. We begin to add pressure and weight on our shoulders that we carry into the bedroom. Why are we worrying about outcomes vs. enjoying the ride?

Men typically view sex as goal-oriented, performance-driven, orgasm-centric and erection focused. How un-sexy is that sentence? Imagine what sex would be like if we came from a place of pleasure, intimacy, sharing of sexual enjoyment, no judgment? Men set themselves up for performance anxiety by creating expectations that are often too difficult to achieve — expectations that don’t really even matter. Not only are these expectations hard to live up to, but they work against the very nature of what sex is: pleasure enjoyed by two people. If you see sex as a task or a job, you just may miss the important stuff beyond the physical and behavioral.  

According to Laumann et al. in 1999, about 30% of men experiencepremature ejaculation (PE), about 15% have a lack of interest in sex and about 8% of men experience delayed ejaculation (DE) and cannot reach orgasm during sex. These numbers represent clinical concerns. Most men don’t have clinically diagnosed sexual issues but will have occasional bouts with PE, DE or libido concerns throughout their lives.

In 2003, Kubin et al. found that about one-third of men experienced some type of erectile dysfunction (ED) at least once a year. They also found that psychological stress was at the top of the list for men as a predictor of ED. We also know that the older men get, the higher the rates of ED. Studies have found that by age 50, almost 60% of men experience ED, and by age 70, over 80% have experienced it.

1997, Elliot and Brantley asked college males if they’ve ever faked an orgasm. Seventeen percent of straight guys and 27% of gay and bi guys answered yes. Why would a guy fake an orgasm? Some reasons may be to avoid disappointing or hurting their partners’ feelings, communication difficulties, to get sex over with or because the performance anxiety is so intense that orgasm or ejaculation is not likely.

Why am I bringing up male sexual concerns in a performance-anxiety article? Regardless of whether the sexual concerns come before or as a result of performance anxiety, the important part to recognize is they often go hand in hand. Let’s face reality: Sexual concerns and performance anxiety are common, and it’s going to happen to every guy to varying degrees. We need to accept it as a part of male sexuality without letting this get under our skin. We need to understand that it’s human nature. We need to start talking about it. To make sexual concerns and performance anxiety secretive, or to internalize and repress them, only makes the issues worse. Until you overcome the fear of addressing your struggle honestly, there’s only so much you can do to overcome your anxiety.   

What Are You So Afraid of?

Here’s a newsflash: Men are human. We’re not infallible, we feel pain and we have feelings. We’re not made of muscle and we are not impenetrable fortresses of toughness. I don’t care how much you, your friends or society tries to BS each other into thinking this. We have more sides to our hearts and egos than meets the eye. After countless years as a sex therapist, I’ve learned that men experience all matter of body-imagedifficulties and anxieties about sex. So if this is going on with most of us, why are we so afraid to talk about it?  

Where Does Performance Anxiety Come From?

Anxiety was never meant to sneak its way into the bedroom and our sex lives. It had a more preventative function from an evolutionary psychology perspective. Our bodies use anxiety as a warning system for protection in response to danger, threats or hostile situations. Our bodies are telling us that we need to pay close attention to our surroundings and our well-being for survival. That works fine when we’re hunting or in battle, but during sexual interactions or as lovers in an aroused sexual state? We train ourselves to use anxiety as a protective process that alerts us to danger. Unfortunately, we reinforce this in the bedroom, too. Many cognitive theorists, researchers and brain experts believe we can strengthen the brain circuitry associated with anxiety based in part by repetitive patterns. That said, experts also believe we can rewire our brains and undo the intensity of these anxious responses. Basically, it’s possible for us to change how we respond to stressors.

For humans, anxiety and stress can create cortisol and adrenaline, which produces a feeling that simulates a heightened state of alert. It’s the opposite of feeling relaxed and calm in the moment and not ideal for sexual interactions. Many sexual concerns such as premature ejaculation, erectile concerns and delayed ejaculation are associated with high levels of stress and anxiety, which can inhibit blood flow, make erection more difficult, increase muscular and body tension, as well as desensitize the genitalia. Notice how the anxiety helps create more issues to worry about. We call these negative feedback loops.  

Negative feedback loops are negative cycles we reinforce by repeating the same patterns and experiences over and over. Men with performance anxiety often recreate negative sexual experiences in their minds before, during and after sex. It’s a sexual self-fulfilling prophecy that forces us to re-experience the trauma, pain, frustration, embarrassment, shame and guilt that we may have felt during an anxious sexual experience.

Often a cycle looks like this: A person has a sexual experience they perceive as bad, unsuccessful or a failure. They think about it, dwell on it, get down on themselves about it. They chip away at their sexual confidence, self-esteem and begin to believe the negative self-talk and thoughts they perceive about themselves (strengthening the neural pathways of sexual performance anxiety). They solidify our negative thoughts and feelings, and then become core beliefs. When the next sexual opportunity presents itself, anxiety is now the initial, reinforced response, and perceived failure is on the forefront of the mind. If we think it’s going to happen, it’s more likely to happen. When it does, a vicious cycle of sexual performance anxiety forms, loaded with insecurities, worries, PE, ED, DE and all the other mental and emotional baggage we choose to carry on our shoulders into the bedroom.

Cognitive distortions also add to our negative feedback loops and challenge our reality thinking. Catastrophizing is where we expect disaster and exaggerate, or shrink the importance of something. An example of exaggerating (magnification) can be losing an erection. We might make it out to be the end of the world, but realistically, is it? Another cognitive distortion is called jumping to conclusions, which often fuels mind-racing thoughts. If a person ejaculates quickly, he may assume or anticipate what his partner is thinking, feeling or experiencing. Polarized thinking is when a person thinks in extreme terms with no middle ground. Filtering is when we pick out a negative detail or insecurity, dwell on it and discount the positives or reality.   

What Can I Do About My Performance Anxiety?

There is a lot people can do to work toward managing their anxiety around sexual performance. Many may use techniques to help themselves, while others may benefit from seeing a GP, psychiatrist or sex therapist.

Here are 20 tips to help you work on your performance anxiety.

1. Erase life stressors that create anxiety. If you have stress all around you from work, family, relationships, etc., it’s bound to take a toll on your sexual functioning. Manage the anxiety around you. 

2. Incorporate anxiety reducers in your life. Yoga, nature walks,workouts, hobbies. How many of you have seen a stressed-out Buddhist monk? Live a life that promotes mindfulness and calmness.

3. Breathing exercises can decrease anxiety, regulate heart rate, have positive effects on blood pressure, self-soothe and decrease muscle tension. They can be used outside and inside the bedroom.

4. Mindfulness techniques. The experience of attention to thoughts, emotions, physical sensations and surroundings during any given moment. Being present, learning to limit and manage intrusive thoughts that affect your concentration on pleasure, enhancement, sensation and breath. Not having judgment, creating a safe and secure environment that embraces being one with the moment and with your partner. Anxiety and stress are distracting, the arch nemesis of mindfulness. Learn to clear your mind using meditation, relaxation techniques or visualization exercises. Practice outside the bedroom for improved regulation affects regulation inside the bedroom.

5. Communication. Talking about your fears, concerns and what you need to feel safe and secure. This communication can open up doors to comfort. Being honest with yourself and your partner is key in managing your anxiety.

6. Focus on pleasure. The point of sex is to enjoy pleasure. What sensations do you enjoy, what are your needs, what are your partner’s desires? Be playful, keep things light, tickle, get kinky, share fantasies, get swept away by pleasure.   

7. Sensate focus exercises. Non-genital and non-intercourse intimacy exercises that help a person explore connection, comfort, intimacy and eroticism without anxious expectations. Exercises that focus on eye gazing, hugging, touch, partner communication, massage, masturbation in front of partner, mutual masturbation, oral and exercises are just a few of the possibilities. These are not goal oriented. Instead, they teach a person to be present and mindful of pleasure with their partner.

8. Increase your sexual comfort. The origins of anxiety may be rooted in sexual discomfort or inexperience. Read about sexuality, learn sexual techniques, have a better understanding of your partner’s pleasure cues, breathing, body language, sounds and pelvic rocking,

9. Take your time. It’s not a race to the finish line. People feel more relaxed when they can get into a groove and find a flow. Sex is not about the destination; it’s about the journey. 

10. Take responsibility for your own orgasm. Have a chat with your partner and discuss this important topic. When we decide that we’re responsible for our own orgasms, it can alleviate the pressure of thinking we need to give our partner an orgasm. If she wants one, she can communicate what she needs from you, grab a vibrator to pleasure herself or take care of herself manually. You need to do the same for your orgasm. This can reduce the tendency for some to focus too much on their partner. Focus instead on pleasure, passion, breathing, enthusiasm and sensation.

11. Use positive self-talk. It’s time to challenge the negative self-talk using the power of positive thinking and psychology. Use positive reinforcement, affirmations and statements to create more positive energy directed toward yourself. There are community colleges and universities that teach positive psychology theory and techniques classes that can be very helpful as well. 

12. Automatic thought records. A classic cognitive therapy technique that helps challenge cognitive distortions and encourages us to work on noticing our distorted thoughts and replacing them with alternative thinking.

13. Hypnosis. A wonderful technique that can help individuals work through anxiety and stress.

14. Changing your diet, sleep and exercise regimens for improved body system regulation. It’s no secret that working toward better eating habits, sleep cycles and workout routines works wonders for our bodies and our anxiety levels.

15. Realistic expectations. It’s realistic to expect a wide variety of sexual experiences. Some pleasurable, others that are duds, and everything in between. Expect a few sexual difficulties, be realistic in both your expectations and your reactions.

16. Professional help. Consider a sex therapist to help you navigate any difficulties. They can help you look at your history of anxiety, attachment, childhood, family issues, as well as your sex history and relationship history. I’ve treated a lot of men with performance anxiety, and the one thing I’m certain of is each man has his own personal story of where it likely comes from and how it affects him. The American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) is a good start toward finding qualified sex therapists near you and if you’re in Los Angeles (you can find me at A primary-care physician can help rule out a physiological issue. Get checked out.

17. Porn star sex vs. reality lovemaking. I’ve noticed a lot of men compare themselves to the guys they see in porn. If that’s your experience, it might be wise to challenge your ideas of sex, relationships and how porn influences those. In the real world, penises are average-sized, most women aren’t into huge penises, the average lovemaking time for heterosexual couples is 3 to 13 minutes and our partners like us for a lot of reasons, not just for sex. Remember, porn is fantasy and not intended to be sex education or used for performance comparisons. 

18. Be careful of substances, drugs or alcohol. Some drugs help short term with managing anxiety, lowering inhibition, increasing desire or arousal, and even increased sensation. Sure, they’re fun and offer physiological spikes with some neurotransmitters and hormones, but long term, many drugs do the exact opposite of what you hope for. Many men feel more anxious when using substances, which can affect sexual functioning.

19. Don’t distract yourself. Thinking about Margaret Thatcher, baseball stats or NFL teams is the exact opposite of what you need to do. Thinking about anything other than pleasure and enjoyment defeats the purpose of sex. Why would you want to avoid something that is meant for enjoyment? Avoidance is rarely the answer in sex. See mindfulness techniques.

20. Take the emphasis off erection. When their erection joins the pleasure party, many men feel an immediate need to use it. They create a state of pressure and anxiety, and feel the need to rush into intercourse. There’s no need to pressure ourselves. For most men, erection is simply a sign of arousal and not always the signal to stick it in. Sensate focus exercises are helpful tools. It’s OK to be with your partners, erect or flaccid, and be present with them, regardless of penetration. To begin to assume power and control over your anxiety, you’re going to have to stand up to it. Tell your erection when you want to use it. Don’t let your ejaculation, fears or performance anxiety dictate your thoughts and your sex.


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Sex can start to feel like a chore if everything about it stays the same from session to session. “Getting bored with sex is one of the more common sexual complaints that couples have,” says sex coach and sexuality educator Charlie Glickman, PhD. “Changing things up takes care of a frequent difficulty.” No, you don’t need to hang from the ceiling or stand on your head to keep intercourse interesting. Just try these eight tweaks on classic positions to heat things up in the bedroom.

1. Doggy Style, on Your Elbows

Throw your partner a bone and up his penetration power. The traditional version of this position has the woman on all fours and the man on his knees, entering her from behind, but if you rest on your elbows instead of your hands, “the change in angle makes it easier for your partner to go deeper,” says Dr. Glickman. Bonus: “Your wrists won’t get tired from holding up your body.”

2. Doggy Style, with a Belt or Scarf

Another sexy update to doggy style could start with what’s hanging in your closet. “Get on your hands and knees, and have your partner place a wide belt or scarf in front of your hips,” Dr. Glickman suggests. He should hold the slack and “use it to pull you back onto him, without having to grip you so hard.” Be sure the belt rests where you’d normally wear one, so it doesn’t slide around. “Using a belt or scarf gives your partner a solid hold,” which allows for deeper penetration, Dr. Glickman adds.

3. Missionary, with Added Friction

Extra rub means extra love for this spin on man on top. The traditional form of this position has the guy lying face to face on top of the woman, who’s on her back. “Start out this way, but bring your legs between his, and have him angle his body forward so that his shaft is rubbing firmly on your clitoris (also known as the coital alignment technique),” says Rachel Needle, PsyD, a psychologist and certified sex therapist. Squeeze your legs together to make your vagina feel tighter and create more friction for the both of you.

4. Woman on Top, with Extra Clitoral Stimulation

Instead of straddling your man as he lies on his back with his legs flush against the bed, have him bend his knees up toward the ceiling, with the bottoms of his feet resting flat on the mattress. As you move on top of him, place one of your legs outside of his thigh, and your other leg in between his legs. “This allows you to control the depth and angle of penetration,” Dr. Needle explains, “all while rubbing your clitoris against his pubic bone.”

5. Reverse Cowgirl, with His Legs Bent into a Diamond Shape

The standard style of this position “has the woman on top with her back to her partner, lowering herself down onto him,” Dr. Needle says. For this variation, “your partner lies on his back with his legs bent, and the soles of his feet touching, knees falling to each side. Straddle him backwards and lower yourself onto him, leaning forward a bit, so that your clitoris is being rubbed.” While riding your partner, Dr. Needle suggests playing with his testicles and putting pressure on his perineum, an area between his scrotum and anus filled with extra nerve endings.

6. Doggy Style, with Your Legs Wrapped Around His Hips

Take things off the bed for deeper penetration, potentially stronger orgasms and a better view of your backside for your partner. “Lie face down on the edge of your bed, with your hips and legs off the bed, and your legs wrapped around his hips,” explains Dr. Needle. “Have your partner stand on the floor behind you, thrusting in and out—support yourself on your elbows for a more intense penetration angle.” Leaning on your elbows also gives you a free hand to manually stimulate yourself.

7. Woman on Top, Sideways

Instead of facing your partner or turning your back to him, give him a profile view, suggests Ava Cadell, PhD, a sex therapist. To balance, put your hands on either side of his body, planting your feet firmly on the floor. “You’ll be able to slide from side to side as far as you want, creating your own friction” for optimum stimulation of the front wall of the vagina, where you’re more sensitive, says Dr. Cadell. “And by moving your pelvis down for deeper penetration, you can align his penis on and around your G-spot, stimulating the whole vagina.” 

8. Missionary, with a Yoga Move

Whether you’re an expert yogi or a newbie, adding the happy baby pose to your sex session makes man-on-top more pleasurable. (But avoid this move if you’re pregnant or have neck problems.) “Instead of holding your legs open with your leg muscles, grab behind your knees,” Dr. Glickman says. “Bend your legs and move your thighs against your belly, with your feet up toward the ceiling. Then, grip your hands around the outsides of your feet. Open your knees slightly wider than your torso and bring them toward your armpits.” This position relaxes your lower back, opens your hips and thighs and allows for very deep penetration. 


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Have More Sex

Sex tonight? Sometimes you’re legitimately not into it, but be honest: Do you occasionally make excuses to avoid making love? In some long-term relationships partners go on auto-pilot, saysChristina Steinorth, psychotherapist and author of Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships. “They stop checking in, touching one another, talking.” This leaves you feeling disconnected—and more apt to pull a get-out-of-sex card. Here, 10 common sex excuses, and how to bust out. 

Excuse #1: I’m too tired tonight.

Raise your hand if you’re not tired. Between jobs, kids and housework, we’re all running on empty. But careful you’re not using “too tired” as shorthand for “I don’t want to deal with you right now,” says Steinorth.

Bust out: First, sex usually doesn’t take that much time away from sleep (and you might sleep better!). Second, if you really mean there’s too much on your mind, say so: “I’m occupied with the bills/the bathroom leak/my boss’s attitude.” Clearing the air can clear the way for sex.

Excuse #2: I have work to do.

Reaching for the computer, checkbook or laundry basket right when your man is reaching for you is classic avoidance, says Steinorth. We all have busy times; don’t let it become a pattern.

Bust out: Gut check: Does whatever you’re doing have to be done now, or can it sit until tomorrow, asks April Masini, relationship expert at AskApril. If tech is your sex-avoidance crush, banish it from the bedroom entirely. Having it in reach makes it easier to call your smartphone addiction “work,” she says. 

Excuse #3: I’m not happy with my body right now.

“Women tend to put vanity ahead of intimacy,” says Masini. When your man wants sex, though, he doesn’t care about a muffin top or thighs that touch; he cares that you want him, too.

Bust out: If you think losing a few pounds will make you feel sexier, go for it, but don’t feel your body has to be “perfect.” Merely trying to improve your physical self (eating better, getting more exercise) can be a boost. And do little things that make you feel sexier, such as getting a new haircut or lingerie. 

Excuse #4: The kids might walk in or need us.

Either of these can happen, admits Masini, but offering this excuse is usually a holdover habit from the infant/toddler days.

Bust out: You can try asking friends or relatives to let your kids sleep over, and return the favor when they need it. But remember that your relationship should be primary, says Steinorth. “If you make it clear to your kids that mom and dad have private time now and then, you’re modeling a good relationship andteaching them boundaries.” So put a lock on your bedroom door, and run a fan or white-noise machine.

Excuse #5: We do it X number of times a week. I read that was average.

When your partner asks for sex and you come back at him with an “average” argument, you make him feel bad for wanting you, says Carole Lieberman, MD, psychiatrist and author of Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets. Besides, averages include couples who have sex 12 times a week and those who do it once a year.

Bust out: “It doesn’t matter what anyone else’s frequency is, only what the two of you want,” says Dr. Lieberman. If you two, like many couples, have mismatched libidos, talk about it and try to meet in the middle. 

Excuse #6: There’s too much good stuff on TV.

Sounds lame (and you can sub out TV for the Internet and video games), but sometimes entertainment replaces real life, says Masini. Although staying up for Breaking Bad while your husband goes to bed one night won’t hurt anything, always choosing fictional characters over your flesh-and-blood hubby can harm your marriage.

Bust out: Of course you can simply invest in a DVR, but on a serious note, Steinorth suggests powering down all electronic entertainment an hour before bed. 

Excuse #7: Our schedules don’t mesh.

You’re sacked out by 9 and up at dawn, and he’s the opposite? Mismatched biorhythms, not to mention real-world scheduling issues, such as night shifts or early commute times, are common in couples.

Bust out: Who says sex has to happen at a mutual bedtime? “Don’t feel guilty about scheduling sex—it’s a good thing!” says Steinorth. Hit the sack when your partner does, and then stay up late. Or, if you can, meet for lunch. “Embrace the quickie,” says Masini. “It’s not a great long-term solution, but it is a way to preserve intimacy.”

Excuse #8: I have my period.

He wants it and you want to curl up with a hot water bottle? This comes down to a difference in comfort—and squeamishness. But using your period as a blanket excuse is a missed opportunity to talk about how you both feel.

Bust out: If having sex during your period isn’t your cup of tea, he should respect that, but intercourse isn’t your only option those days. Also, showers do wonders for messes. “Make compromises and be generous,” recommends Masini. 

Excuse #9: I’m mad at you right now.

There’s always something to be mad about, from minor annoyances (the toilet seat’s up again?) to larger upsets (can’t believe his mom is coming on our couple’s getaway!). But if anger’s a stalling tactic for being intimate (“when you apologize and I’m convinced you mean it, I’ll have sex with you”) you’re hurting the relationship, says Dr. Lieberstein.

Bust out: If you’re feeling resentful, or even mildly pissy, tell your partner and work on resolving issues. Or don’t! “The sex alone may ease the anger, or make the thing you were so angry about seem less important,” says Masini. 

Excuse #10: What’s the point? I never orgasm anyway.

Ouch. Also: Yikes. “When you write off the possibilityof enjoying sex, you aren’t giving him an opportunity to improve his skills as a lover,” says Steinorth. And you’re selling yourself short, too.

Bust out: Imagine how you’d feel if he told you that you didn’t ever please him. You’d be upset, and you’d want to know what to do to make it better. Tell him. Your silence (and belief that he should just “know”) is doing no one any favors. 


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1- Asking for permission

If you’ve been with a woman for long enough to know her body languageand emotions, nothing quite ruins the mood like a formal request to proceed. You don’t need a legal team to draw up a waiver: A good lover knows how to let her know he’s in the mood and turn her on without resorting to robotic requests. Something as simple as an intense look or a certain touch is a much better way of going about it. That being said, consent is paramount for a trusting and passionate encounter.

2- Predictability

If you’ve been together for a while, this can definitely be a problem. Part of the reason why things were so hot between you and her when you first got together was because you didn’t know what to expect. If you want to maintain a similar level of excitement months or even years down the road, you have to keep it fresh.

Don’t be afraid to try new things that you’ll both enjoy; never let it get to a point where she can anticipate your every move. For instance, if you usually spend five minutes on foreplay, spend 15 minutes next time and tease her mercilessly. She won’t know what hit her. And soon, neither will you.

3- Mechanical sex

Most women will agree that sex without passion is quite dull; no woman wants to be treated like a blow-up doll. We’re not saying that every sexual encounter has to be mind-blowing, it’s just that you should never ignore the fact that, no matter how cool she is, she’s still a woman who would like nothing more than to be treated as such. So be the lover of her dreams and make love to her at least once in a while.

If you never go the extra mile, she just might find someone who does…

4- Not going the extra mile

Although many women — as well as men — feel that they must be content with whatever sexual act they engage in with their partners, the truth is that they will eventually tire of a bare-bones routine. So, if you want to prevent her from tiring of you, you must put in a little extra effort every once in a while.

You guessed it: That means romance. The fact that most women don’t even expect this at this point in the devolution of dating is to your great advantage because if you are romantic every once in a while, she’ll wonder what distant planet you hail from and be all over you.

For instance, leave her love notes describing what you’d like her to do to you, what you’d like to do to her, and what she should slip into (or out of) while she anxiously awaits your return. Make her a romantic dinner for two, play some mood music and seduce her. Write her a song and make her melt. Make it about pleasing her next time and not only will she not be bored, she may just do anything to please you in return.

5- Same location

If your woman has memorized the cracks in your bedroom ceiling, you’re in trouble. But don’t worry, a simple change of location can fix this situation. Take it to the shower, the kitchen table, your car, a secluded beach, the woods — the possibilities are endless. Use your imagination and try not to get caught.

6- Too vocal or not vocal enough

Excessive grunting or repeating certain words can be just as tiresome asmaking no noise at all. So, try to find a comfortable medium that lets her know you’re enjoying yourself without letting the whole neighborhood know as well. The right choice of words can also be a turn-on for many women.

Telling her that what she’s doing feels amazing, that she looks hot, what you’d like to do to her, or have her do to you will go a long way in preventing the boredom from setting in.

7- Never experimenting

If you’ve been with a woman for a while, and want to keep each other turned on, you had better try some new positions, spill your fantasies, engage inrole playing, and anything else that will serve to spice things up, or you risk breaking up out of sheer bedroom boredom.

Pour yourselves a glass of wine or two, talk about what turns you on, and you may just end up fulfilling these fantasies sooner than you think.

dream lover

Avoid these seven bedroom blunders. But don’t stress — most women don’t have insane expectations, they just want to see you make the extra effort every once in a while.

Just remember that the opposite of boring is spontaneous and unexpected. So if you try to be the latter sometimes, you should never bore her in bed. Just make sure that you’re with a woman who’ll want nothing more than to please you in return.


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As a sex researcher, I get a lot of questions from friends, students, and random people I meet at cocktail parties. A lot of questions. Well, I’ve decided to compile a list of these questions and talk about them here on Kinsey Confidential. Because if friends, students, and randoms are all asking about it – you’ve likely wondered too!

Today’s question pick

I often have friends and students asking about condoms. Surprisingly, I don’t hear too many complaints from my hetero female friends and students about condoms. The women tend to not mind the feeling of a condom; some of them actually express liking the fact that condoms prevent them from having any sort of “mess” to clean up afterward.

But the men, well, they are who have made this a common question: condom complaints are common among men. These complaints are varied (and have been documented in the literature and can be read about here). The most common question I hear with regard to condom use is about how to keep an erection when a condom enters the sexual equation. So, here are some suggestions:

Try using the condom during masturbation

I know, it might sound weird, but not only does this allow your penis to become familiar with the sensation that a condom provides, but it also allows for a quick clean up method without having a hamper full of socks or a garbage full of tissues!

Experiment with buying different types of condoms

There are a huge variety of condoms on the market today. Have you seen condom sections lately? The options are there, yet many men stick to the same brand or style that they are accustomed to, for whatever reason. Well, that might be part of the problem. Penises are not all shaped the same, and there are some great condoms on the market today that acknowledge that. It is worth the bit of extra money you will spend looking for the perfect fit to be able to have consistently safe and pleasurable sex in the future. I think the most innovative design on the market right now is the Trojan Ecstasy condom. It is lubricated on the inside and the outside and has a “comfort shape” that is loose at the end for a more natural feeling. That isn’t the only one on the market though…so shop around and find one that feels the best for you.

Restructure your association with condoms

A condom is an object. The way you view that object can impact the way your perform when the object is brought into the sexual situation. Understanding that you can restructure the cognitive associations you have with condoms is an important first step to taking control of the situation. When we are kids, condoms are actually a pretty scary object – filled with feelings of anxiety, curiosity, and the unknown. This association can be long-lasting. Try to see the condom as associated with pleasure (which will happen through masturbating with the condom) rather than disease. Also, with the advancements in the condom industry, condoms are sometimes enhancers of sexual pleasure by offering stimulating lubrication (warm, tingle, cool…take your pick). Cognitively restructuring your relationship with condoms to be positive rather than anxiety provoking will naturally improve your sexual experience.

Hopefully by masturbating with the condom, trying different types of condoms to find the perfect fit, and engaging in a little cognitive restructuring…you’ll be well on your way to maintaining that erection to make sex safe while keeping it pleasurable.


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1. While he’s washing his chest, stand behind him and press your soaped up boobs against his back. Then reach around and teasingly stroke his upper thighs. All that anticipation combined with the lukewarm water will up his blood flow to his package, meaning he’ll be really (really) turned on.

2. Use a loofah to give him a naughty back massage. Press it firmly against his skin, and move it in slow, small circles from the nape of his neck to the base of his spine…and then keep going so you massage his butt cheeks. The rough texture of the loofah will stimulate all those sensitive nerve endings down there.

3. Stand facing each other so that both of you have one shoulder toward the shower head (but not directly under it). Pull him in for a passionate kiss—having the water spray over both of your faces will add totally new sensations to your lip lock. While you’re at it, give his hair a gentle tug—his scalp is particularly tender right now (in a good way) since he’s been scrubbing it, so it’ll intensify his pleasure.

4. Since the water isn’t piping hot, his nipples will likely be hard and super sensitive. Take advantage by tracing your tongue around the outer edges a few times before (very gently) biting his nipple.

5. Wrap a wet wash cloth around his penis so that it’s touching the underside of his shaft. Then, with your hands holding either end of the washcloth, move it up and down slowly, so it ever-so-lightly rubs the bottom of his penis, creating feel-good friction.

6. Soap up your hands so they’re sudsy, then grab his boys for a little ball-on-ball action (the slickness of the water and soap will increase sensation). Hold them in your hand and move them so they rub against each other. Then move your hand a little further past his balls and stroke the sensitive patch of skin between his twins and his butt with your fingers.

7. Without saying a word, get on your knees (use a hand to steady yourself) and take his penis into your mouth. Use your free hand to stroke his shaft as you go up and down in a corkscrew motion. Not only does it feel amazing for him, it’s way easier for you since the shower water helps to make things super slippery and pleasurable.

8. As you’re going down on him, grab his butt with your hands and dig in lightly with your nails. The water spraying on his butt, plus your nails against his skin, will put his arousal (and his impending climax) into overdrive.

9. Let him play voyeur and touch yourself. If you have a removable shower head, hold it so that the water hits your clitoris, while your guy stands behind you—his chest against your back (that way he can touch your breasts, kiss your neck, etc.). Don’t have the detachable kind? Tweak the angle of the shower head so the water sprays between your legs. (There won’t be as much water pressure on your hot spot this way, so you may need to give yourself a hand).



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# 1 Sex causes the body to release endorphins, which can lighten pains


# 2 On average, people who have sex 3 times a week are perceived to look 4 to 7 years younger

# 3 A Scottish study found that after orgasm, people had an easier time with public speaking

# 4 A poll found that those in the most conservative and religious states tend to look at online pornography more often


# 5 Humans, along with dolphins and bonobo chimps, are the only living things that have sex for pleasure


# 6 34% of men have told lies in order to have sex, versus 10% of women


# 7 1 in 50 people claim to have had sex in an airplane


# 8 Greek couples have sex the most times per year at 138; Japanese couples are at the bottom of the list with 45

# 9 Studies show than men who have sex more often tend to have a longer life expectancy


# 10 Women who read romance novels tend to have twice as many lovers as women who do not


# 11 Sex burns an average of 100 calories per session


# 12 The first couple shown in bed together on prime time TV were Fred and Wilma Flintstone


# 13 In Hong Kong, a wife who gets cheated on is legally allowed to kill her husband- but only with her bare hands


# 14 The smell of pumpkin pie, licorice, chocolate, and donuts increase the blood to a man’s genitals


# 15 The typical person spends about 600 hours between the ages of 20 and 70 having sex


Health Benefits of Kissing
Effects of Kissing:
Long kisses are beneficial to our circulatory system. When kissing, our pulse rate is quickening up to 110 beats per minute. This is great training for our cardiovascular system.
After kissing, the lungs work harder, resulting in 60 inhales per minute compared to regular 20 inhales. Such “ventilation” is a good preventive measure against lung disease.
Some dentists believe that kissing is a preventive measure against dental caries. Indeed, kissing stimulates the flow of saliva that eliminates acid coat on the teeth.
Kisses that last more than three minutes help us fight stress and its effects. Long kisses trigger the chain of biochemical reactions, which destroys stress hormones.
Those who kiss their partner goodbye each morning live five years longer than those who don’t.
Kissing is great for self-esteem. It makes you feel appreciated and helps your state of mind.
Kissing burns calories, 2-3 calories a minute and can double your metabolic rate. Research claims that three passionate kisses a day (at least lasting 20 seconds each) will cause you to lose an entire extra pound.
Kissing is a known stress-reliever. Passionate kissing relieves tension, reduces negative energy and produces a sense of well being, lowering your cortisol ‘stress’ hormone.
Kissing uses 30 facial muscles and it helps keep the facial muscles tight, preventing baggy cheeks! The tension in the muscles caused by a passionate kiss helps smooth the skin and increases the circulation.
Kissing is good for the heart, as it creates an adrenaline which causes your heart to pump more blood around your body. Frequent kissing has scientifically been proven to stabilize cardiovascular activity, decrease blood pressure and cholesterol.
Those who kiss quite frequently are less likely to suffer from stomach, bladder and blood infections.
During a kiss, natural antibiotics are secreted in the saliva. Also, the saliva contains a type of anesthetic that helps relieve pain.
Kissing reduces anxiety and stops the ‘noise’ in your mind. It increases the levels of oxytocin, an extremely calming hormone that produces a feeling of peace.

Health Benefits of Kissing

Effects of Kissing:

  1. Long kisses are beneficial to our circulatory system. When kissing, our pulse rate is quickening up to 110 beats per minute. This is great training for our cardiovascular system.
  2. After kissing, the lungs work harder, resulting in 60 inhales per minute compared to regular 20 inhales. Such “ventilation” is a good preventive measure against lung disease.
  3. Some dentists believe that kissing is a preventive measure against dental caries. Indeed, kissing stimulates the flow of saliva that eliminates acid coat on the teeth.
  4. Kisses that last more than three minutes help us fight stress and its effects. Long kisses trigger the chain of biochemical reactions, which destroys stress hormones.
  5. Those who kiss their partner goodbye each morning live five years longer than those who don’t.
  6. Kissing is great for self-esteem. It makes you feel appreciated and helps your state of mind.
  7. Kissing burns calories, 2-3 calories a minute and can double your metabolic rate. Research claims that three passionate kisses a day (at least lasting 20 seconds each) will cause you to lose an entire extra pound.
  8. Kissing is a known stress-reliever. Passionate kissing relieves tension, reduces negative energy and produces a sense of well being, lowering your cortisol ‘stress’ hormone.
  9. Kissing uses 30 facial muscles and it helps keep the facial muscles tight, preventing baggy cheeks! The tension in the muscles caused by a passionate kiss helps smooth the skin and increases the circulation.
  10. Kissing is good for the heart, as it creates an adrenaline which causes your heart to pump more blood around your body. Frequent kissing has scientifically been proven to stabilize cardiovascular activity, decrease blood pressure and cholesterol.
  11. Those who kiss quite frequently are less likely to suffer from stomach, bladder and blood infections.
  12. During a kiss, natural antibiotics are secreted in the saliva. Also, the saliva contains a type of anesthetic that helps relieve pain.
  13. Kissing reduces anxiety and stops the ‘noise’ in your mind. It increases the levels of oxytocin, an extremely calming hormone that produces a feeling of peace.


When used properly, the best condoms can be upwards of 98% effective against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). However, many people are not as careful or informed about their condom use as they should be. This guide details the types of condoms available and tips for using them as effectively as possible.

Types of Condoms
1. Latex. Latex condoms are by far the most abundant on the market. They are relatively inexpensive, thin, flexible, and extremely effective against pregnancy and STDs including AIDS. The only drawbacks include possible allergies to latex and bad taste of the latex rubber. Oil based lubricants such as Vaseline and cold cream will break down latex rubber so be sure to use water based lubricant. Latex condoms cannot be used in chlorinated swimming pools either because chlorine also breaks down latex. Most all latex condoms are for men.

2. Polyurethane. This plastic-like material is now being used as an alternative to latex for making condoms. It is extremely thin, durable, has no taste or odor, causes no known allergic reactions, and can be used with both oil and water based lubricants. They cost a little more than latex condoms, and aren’t quite as flexible as latex, but they make a great alternative. Because of their higher rigidity, be sure to use adequate lubrication. And if you do use polyurethane condoms, be sure to read any documentation provided with them for possible additional information. Right now these are sold under the brand name Durex Avanti for males. There’s also a female version of the polyurethene condom available called Reality.

3. Natural or Sheepskin. Despite their name, “natural” or “sheepskin” condoms are in fact made from animal intestines. They are just as effective against pregnancy as polyurethane or latex, however they do not offer good protection against STDs. They cost two to three times as much as latex and are not as widely available. Oil and water based lubricants can be used with them. For couples merely seeking an alternative to latex and protection against pregnancy they are worth a mention.

4. Novelty. Specialty condoms which may be flavored, edible, or part of joke or gag sets are considered novelty and should not be used for serious protection. This often applies to condom gags found in adult bookstores. These types of condoms are usually marked on the package as “For novelty use only.” Always check the labeling and directions if you are not sure. Never use a condom you are not sure about.

Wearing a male condom properly
1. Buy the condoms of your choice from a trusted source such as a pharmacy and note these three things: the expiration date, the size, and the lubrication used, if any. You might have to do some research before making a purchase so you can determine the best brand and size to try. Having the right size is very important.

2. Take care in opening the condom package not to damage the condom itself. Never use anything sharp to cut the wrapper open. Unroll the condom, fat part of the roll outside, down on an erect penis only, while squeezing the tip to prevent air from becoming trapped inside. The condom should roll down to the base of the penis and fit snugly but comfortably. If it is too loose or too tight or uncomfortable in any way, you may have to consider switching brands or styles.

3. If you will be applying any spermicide or lubricant, do so before intercourse takes place. Remember to use water based lubes only such as K-Y Jelly, Wet, or AstroGlide; no Vaseline, cold cream, or similar oil based products (including many foods such as whipped cream that could possibly be used in sex play for you adventurous types) because they break down latex rubber.

4. To maximize the effectiveness of the condom for prevention of both diseases and pregnancy, don’t “double bag" condoms and hold the base of the condom when withdrawing from your partner being very careful not to spill any semen. To dispose of the condom, tie it in a knot and throw it away in the trash; do not flush it. They don’t degrade like paper and can do horrible things to sewer and septic system lines. Never use any condom more than once and never use the same condom if switching between anal and vaginal intercourse.

5. Virgin birth alert! Be sure to wash your hands and your penis with soap and water if you plan to have any unprotected sexual contact after removing the used condom.

· Most condoms are manufactured 3-5 years before their expiration dates. Since latex degrades over time, the fresher the condoms are the better. Never use any condom that has expired, and be sure to store condoms in a cool dry place away from heat, cold, sunlight, or sharp objects.

· If the condom is not lubricated, apply at least a few drops of water based lubricant to the tip of the inside and outside of the condom right before intercourse, especially with polyurethane. This will decrease the possibility of the condom breaking due to excessive friction.

· Although condoms come in a vast array of colors, sizes, shapes, and textures, generally those from the same brand and of the same thickness share equal effectiveness.

· If a condom is too tight, it is more likely to break or cause pain. If it is too loose, it is more likely to slip off. Be sure you choose a size that works best for you. If you dislike using condoms now because they are uncomfortable, try switching sizes or brands. You may be in for a pleasant surprise!


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We spend countless hours and dollars to doll ourselves up, but Mother Nature has given us women an au natural way to turn heads: S-E-X.

Sure, there’s a time and a place for perfectly applied eyeliner and not-a-strand-out-of-place hair. But really, what’s hotter than devil-may-care, mussed up bedhead and a swagger that just won’t quit? 

Sex is the ultimate beauty enhancer. No product or procedure can beat getting down and dirty in making you even more gorgeous. Check out these eight reasons why.

1. Natural Makeup

Every morning, you apply makeup and by lunch, you already need a touch up! But if you spend 15 minutes a day doing the deed, your cheeks will naturally flush, your lips will have that perfect red pout and your skin will glow. Move over Sephora—sex is nature’s makeup! As YouDoc Dr. Michael Roizen, the Chief Wellness Officer at the Cleveland Clinic Roizen explains, during sex, “You get excited, and you vasodilate. [Just like] vasodilation happens in the male penis, which is swelling it with blood…well, the same thing is occurring in all your mucosal membranes [to give] you that ruddy look, that redness or that glow. It’s all the same phenomenon.” And, might we add, the sex effect lasts for hours.

2. Save Face

Even if you stay out of the sun, you still may be at risk for premature pruning. “Other than sun exposure, the major wrinkler of the skin is your arteries,” explain Roizen. “Whether you have a wrinkle in your heart, which is a heart attack, or a wrinkle in your skin, it’s the same process.” Good blood flow brings nutrients and oxygen to the skin, which staves off wrinkling. Guess what increases blood flow and makes your skin act younger? You guessed it—sex.

3. Sex Does a Body Good

We all know that the sexiest thing a woman can have is confidence. According to sexpert Mary Jo Rapini, M.Ed, L.P.C., knocking boots gives every woman a swagger. “When I ask men: ‘What is the most attractive thing about your woman?’ one of the top three things is always the way she moves.” After getting frisky, you walk with an even more feminine gait. Your head is held high, your hips swaying from side to side—in other words, you’re getting your strut on. That confidence just reels the men right back in, creating a perfect cycle of sex appeal.

4. Doing “It” is the Best Hair Do

Sex can also contribute to a healthy head of hair. Roizen points out: “Each hair follicle has a blood vessel to it, and your blood flow is a major determinate of both internal and external beauty.” More blood flow means you’re nourishing your hair. Plus, you know sliding around in your sheets gives your tresses that va-va-va voluminous sexy bedhead.

5. Don’t Worry, Be Happy

There’s a reason wrinkles are called worry lines—but no amount of eye cream can put your mind at ease like the horizontal hula. “Sex is the best stress reliever,” says Rapini. Since orgasming is all about learning to relax and breathe, when you’re having sex regularly, the calming effects cumulate and you’ll enjoy long-term stress relief. Rapini points out: “The normal sex act itself takes between three and 20 minutes. That’s not very long, but it influences your whole day, it can even influence you for several days.” And that lack of tension will be all over your beautiful face!

6. Busting Out

During sex, you’ll have even more to show off. According to Dr. Roizen, during sex, “breasts enlarge 25 percent; nipple height increases a half inch.” You’ll be wowing your man sansWonder Bra.

7. Sexercise

While it might be hard to motivate yourself to get to the gym, if you’re ready to spend some time on your back—or on all fours, or in a pretzel shape—sex can give you a great cardioworkout. According to Roizen, “From an arterial standpoint, having sex is the equivalent of engaging in Zumba.” The more you do it, the more it does for your bod!

8. Fountain of Youth

If a woman has an average sex life, her real age can be two to eight years younger than the number on her driver’s license, notes Roizen. “You end up being functionally younger … it’s a consistent effect,” he says. It lowers your risk of the three major killers: heart disease, cancer and all others—which is really depression, suicide, mood changes and things that cause attitudinal changes.” If you keep getting frisky with your partner, you can both turn back the hands of time.

So, gorgeous, the next time someone asks you what your beauty secret is, you can tell her it’s your sex life. And how!


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So I get a lot of questions regarding shaving and what are some of my favorite methods to silky soft legs and other soft body parts and I stumbled upon this on Pinterest, and was a bit skeptical but I tried it and seriously this worked magic for me so I had to share it with my lovely followers. Hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Click the link and it’ll show you how to make the best shaving lotion I’ve ever used

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