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1- Asking for permission

If you’ve been with a woman for long enough to know her body languageand emotions, nothing quite ruins the mood like a formal request to proceed. You don’t need a legal team to draw up a waiver: A good lover knows how to let her know he’s in the mood and turn her on without resorting to robotic requests. Something as simple as an intense look or a certain touch is a much better way of going about it. That being said, consent is paramount for a trusting and passionate encounter.

2- Predictability

If you’ve been together for a while, this can definitely be a problem. Part of the reason why things were so hot between you and her when you first got together was because you didn’t know what to expect. If you want to maintain a similar level of excitement months or even years down the road, you have to keep it fresh.

Don’t be afraid to try new things that you’ll both enjoy; never let it get to a point where she can anticipate your every move. For instance, if you usually spend five minutes on foreplay, spend 15 minutes next time and tease her mercilessly. She won’t know what hit her. And soon, neither will you.

3- Mechanical sex

Most women will agree that sex without passion is quite dull; no woman wants to be treated like a blow-up doll. We’re not saying that every sexual encounter has to be mind-blowing, it’s just that you should never ignore the fact that, no matter how cool she is, she’s still a woman who would like nothing more than to be treated as such. So be the lover of her dreams and make love to her at least once in a while.

If you never go the extra mile, she just might find someone who does…

4- Not going the extra mile

Although many women — as well as men — feel that they must be content with whatever sexual act they engage in with their partners, the truth is that they will eventually tire of a bare-bones routine. So, if you want to prevent her from tiring of you, you must put in a little extra effort every once in a while.

You guessed it: That means romance. The fact that most women don’t even expect this at this point in the devolution of dating is to your great advantage because if you are romantic every once in a while, she’ll wonder what distant planet you hail from and be all over you.

For instance, leave her love notes describing what you’d like her to do to you, what you’d like to do to her, and what she should slip into (or out of) while she anxiously awaits your return. Make her a romantic dinner for two, play some mood music and seduce her. Write her a song and make her melt. Make it about pleasing her next time and not only will she not be bored, she may just do anything to please you in return.

5- Same location

If your woman has memorized the cracks in your bedroom ceiling, you’re in trouble. But don’t worry, a simple change of location can fix this situation. Take it to the shower, the kitchen table, your car, a secluded beach, the woods — the possibilities are endless. Use your imagination and try not to get caught.

6- Too vocal or not vocal enough

Excessive grunting or repeating certain words can be just as tiresome asmaking no noise at all. So, try to find a comfortable medium that lets her know you’re enjoying yourself without letting the whole neighborhood know as well. The right choice of words can also be a turn-on for many women.

Telling her that what she’s doing feels amazing, that she looks hot, what you’d like to do to her, or have her do to you will go a long way in preventing the boredom from setting in.

7- Never experimenting

If you’ve been with a woman for a while, and want to keep each other turned on, you had better try some new positions, spill your fantasies, engage inrole playing, and anything else that will serve to spice things up, or you risk breaking up out of sheer bedroom boredom.

Pour yourselves a glass of wine or two, talk about what turns you on, and you may just end up fulfilling these fantasies sooner than you think.

dream lover

Avoid these seven bedroom blunders. But don’t stress — most women don’t have insane expectations, they just want to see you make the extra effort every once in a while.

Just remember that the opposite of boring is spontaneous and unexpected. So if you try to be the latter sometimes, you should never bore her in bed. Just make sure that you’re with a woman who’ll want nothing more than to please you in return.


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Today is June 5th, 2013 and my one year anniversary with my wonderful husband. When I first met my husband, I just knew there was something different about him, something that no one else had ever given me before. He was charming, charming in the way that no matter what mood I was in or how stubborn to initially trust him as I was, I couldn’t stop thinking about him. I couldn’t get enough. Loving him was something that I couldn’t help; it was instantaneous because from that first phone call I felt like I had known him my entire life and I missed him. He didn’t need to use pick up lines, or tell me all the things that normally win over a girl because I was instantly his. When we had our first kiss, the first thing I said to him was “I missed this” and he laughed because it was our first kiss. I didn’t miss kissing in general, I missed kissing him.  He felt like he had always been the love of my life but we just hadn’t found each other yet. Everything about our relationship folded into place like it had been designed for us from the beginning, and we started believing that it had. Every heart break we had experienced in the past ended so that we were one step closer to finding each other. All I went through led me to you and I would do it all over again. I never believed that things happen for a reason but how this turned out, removed all my doubts. Brandon, you’re perfect for me because everything you do makes me smile and every second spent with you is worthwhile. You’re perfect because when you laugh, I laugh too and because everyone can see I’m devoted to you. I love your eyes and the way they shine and because the way you hold me sends shivers down my spine. I know a lot of people had doubts about us getting married so quickly, and at such a young age but all I can say to them is I get to spend the best of my years with you. When we hit our 20 year anniversary we will only be 40 years old, and on our 40th wedding anniversary we will be 60 years old, still living our lives to the fullest. It is a beautiful mystery, how people find one another, how we can fall in love. We don’t know how it happens but it does, all the pieces fit together and the world stops, and nothing else matters. You are an essential part of my happiness, and looking back at this past year I still can’t believe how much we have grown as people and as a couple.

I love you more than this entire giant paragraph can even begin to explain and here is to one year down, forever to go. Happy Anniversary babe, and I promise to love you today and every day for the rest of our lives.

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For those of you who wanted this.

For those of you who wanted this.

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there’s a few more things, but this sums it up pretty well

there’s a few more things, but this sums it up pretty well

“Making love, she’d always believed, was more than simply a pleasurable act between two people. It encompassed all that a couple was supposed to share: trust & commitement, hopes & dreams, a promise to make it through whatever the future might bring. The greater the love; the greater the tragedy when it is over”  ― Nicholas Sparks

“Making love, she’d always believed, was more than simply a pleasurable act between two people. It encompassed all that a couple was supposed to share: trust & commitement, hopes & dreams, a promise to make it through whatever the future might bring. The greater the love; the greater the tragedy when it is over”  ― Nicholas Sparks

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